As I teased to yesterday, today’s blog post is about perfectionism, which relates to eating disorders in that the drive to be (or appear) perfect can trigger disordered eating patterns at various points along the spectrum, from occasional emotional/stress/comfort eating on one end to full-fledged eating disorders like anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa and binge eating disorder on the other.
“Why have we gotten stuck?”
Spar found that despite the fact that her students at Harvard Business School were extremely intelligent, extremely ambitious and quite capable of putting in long hours at future jobs, professional success was the norm for male graduates, while being the anomaly for female graduates. In fact, in almost every field, the number of women in leadership positions hovers around 16 percent (lower in the tech sector).
Born in 1963, Spar said that women of her generation were still children during the dramatic societal changes that happened between 1963, when Betty Friedan published The Feminine Mystique, and 1978. These include the passage of Roe vs. Wade and Title IX, as well as increased access to birth control.
Her generation took for granted that they could be whatever they wanted to be, because they were the first generation of women to be told that. They were also influenced by advertising and media images that depicted career women as having it all. Of special note are the two Charlies: Charlie perfume (see video below if you need a refresher) and “Charlie’s Angels.”
- “We privatized feminism…we made it about our personal pursuit of perfection…that’s never what feminism was about.”
- “We actually ratcheted up the kinds and level of expectations that we placed on women and young girls.”
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